Individuals who have had experience with infatuation and love can share similar accounts of how each impacted their life. Everyone knows or should know that infatuation is something that eventually burns out fairly quickly. It can’t stand the test of time, because it’s a shallower emotion. Too many people confuse infatuation with love, because they’re too fixated on the attraction level two people feel for each other.
While being attracted to someone is part of what feeling in love is about, most of the time, maturity level will dictate whether or not infatuation or love is felt. Often young people who haven’t had a lot of experience being in relationships confuse the two. Love, being a more complex emotion, goes much deeper than just having sexual feelings for someone. Until an individual has learned to separate wanting someone with loving someone, he or she couldn’t possibly understand what being in love means.
Some people say the surest way to know if you’re in love is to ask yourself if you would die for the person. If the answer is yes, then you’re love’s latest victim. Melodramatics aside, the state of being in love means wanting to share your life with someone, perhaps have children and share the responsibility of raising your offspring, and accepting the fact the other person isn’t perfect. Being able to see someone’s flaws, and still wanting to share your life with them despite those flaws, can be difficult for some people.
When two people make the decision to enter into a relationship it can seem like a wonderful dream both don’t want to wake up from. Their conversations flow effortlessly, they want to spend all of their available time together, and their intimate encounters are incredible, but what happens to that same couple six months or a year later when they’ve grown accustomed to one another? What about five or even ten years later, provided they are still together? A few different scenarios can occur.
The couple’s relationship continues to thrive. They treat one another with mutual respect, understand life isn’t always easy as they learn to handle daily stresses together, give each other space yet make sure they make time for each other, and work at keeping their intimate life exciting. If they have children, they pour their energy into bringing them up in a loving and nurturing environment.
They become bored of one another, their conversations dwindle, they’d rather spend time with anyone other than their significant other, and their intimate encounters become predictable. If the couple is open and honest with each other and realizes they don’t want to stay together anymore, because the relationship is stagnant, they will end the relationship. They will move on with their lives independently.
The possibility exists that a couple will experience a myriad of problems, but have such a deep love for each other they decide to seek counseling to try and resolve their issues. If children are involved, this is more of an incentive to try and stay together, but the decision to stay together should never be made solely because children exist. It’s better for children to be in a one parent household if the parents are going to be miserable being together.
Even if a relationship doesn’t work out, it doesn’t necessarily mean the couple in question wasn’t in love from the beginning and infatuation was involved. Relationships that end don’t always end because there is a lack of love. Often, the love itself wasn’t significant enough to sustain their partnership.